I got into a car accident again. I’m definitely pissed off for a number of reasons. One, it wasn’t my fault. Two, I had no way of proving it. Three, I am a woman, which is–apparently– in most men’s vocabulary, an easy prey for putting the blame into.

The driver wanted to get money out of me. He acted badly hurt, even though he was only given Betadine for his “hurts.” He faked a limp. At the same time, he miraculously lost the limp after he’s been given a wad of cash to shut him up.

I won’t go into details what happened, except to say that it wasn’t my fault.  I decided to write down what to do and what not to do during a vehicular or car accident, as a heads up for all the women out there.

What to do during a car accident

1. Be calm and assertive

He will take advantage of you if you are near panicking.  Act tough.

A while ago, while I was still furious and assertive, he admitted that he did not see me. When I was in tears, he took it all back, yelled at me, and demanded money.

2. You are right. He is wrong.

Your side of the story is always correct. He will act the same. The moment you have any doubts about your story, he will use it against you.

3. Do not move your vehicles after the accident.

This is the ‘crime scene.’ Do not move it or else you will lose all evidence. It doesn’t matter if it will cause traffic. A picture is needed to make the police report.

You have two options: a) if there is no police, take a picture first and then move your vehicles, b) call the one making the police report and make him come to the scene.

The traffic enforcer said I need to move my car and I did. I lost all evidences and he had the upper hand.

4. Make sure you have your OR/CR and license.

They will ask you for these documents. Be prepared.

The number of a police hotline will also be helpful. I don’t have those details, but I’ll look them up.